Dr. Phil’s Test *Dr. Phil scored 55. He did this test on Oprah — she got 38.)
Some folks pay a lot of money to find this stuff out. Read on, this is very interesting! Don’t be overly sensitive! It’s pretty accurate; it only takes about 2 minutes.
Answers are for who you are now…… not who you were in the past. Have a pen or pencil and paper ready. This is a real test given by the Human Relations Dept. at many of the major corporations today. It helps them get better insight concerning their employees and prospective employees.
There are 10 simple questions. So… grab a pencil and paper, keep track of your letter answers. Make sure to change the subject of the e-mail to read YOUR total score. When you are finished, forward this to everyone you know.
Number your paper 1 to 10. Continue to begin test
1. When do you feel at your best? a) in the morning b) during the afternoon and early evening c) late at night 2. You usually walk….. a) fairly fast, with long steps b) fairly fast, with little steps c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face d) less fast, head down e) very slowly 3. When talking to people, you… a) stand with your arms folded b ) have your hands clasped c) have one or both your hands on your hips or in pockets d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking e) play with your ear, touch your chin or smooth your hair 4. When relaxing, you sit with… a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side b) your legs crossed c) your legs stretched out or straight d) one leg curled under you 5. When something really amuses you, You react with… a) a big appreciated laugh b) a laugh, but not a loud one c) a quiet chuckle d) a sheepish smile 6. When you go to a party or social gathering, you… a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed 7. When you’re working or concentrating very hard, and you’re interrupted, you… a) welcome the break b) feel extremely irritated c) vary between these two extremes 8. Which of the following colors do you like most? a) Red or orange b) black c) yellow or light blue d) green e) dark blue or purple f) white g) brown or gray 9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep, you lie… a) stretched out on your back b) stretched out face down on your stomach c) on your side, slightly curled d) with your head on one arm e) with your head under the covers 10. You often dream that you are… a) falling b) fighting or struggling c) searching for something or somebody d) flying or floating e) you usually have dreamless sleep f) your dreams are always pleasant
POINTS: 1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6 2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1 3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6 4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1 5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2 18. continue. 6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2 7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4 8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d)4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1 9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1 10. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1 Now add up the total number of points. OVER 60 POINTS Others see you as someone they should “handle with care.” You’re seen as vain, self-centered and one who is extremely domineering. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don’t always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you. 51 TO 60 POINTS Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather impulsive personality; a natural leader, one who’s quick to make decisions, though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and adventuresome, someone who will try anything once; someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate. 41 TO 50 POINTS Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical and always interesting; someone who’s constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone who’ll always cheer them up and help them out. 31 TO 40 POINTS Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful and practical. They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who’s extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it if that trust is ever broken. 21 TO 30 POINTS Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, a slow and steady plodder. It would really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then usually decide against it. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature. UNDER 21 POINTS People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the decisions and who doesn’t want to get involved with anyone or anything! They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don’t exist. Some people think you’re boring. Only those who know you well know that you aren’t. Now forward this to all your friends -Dr.Phil
According to studies & research conducted by Harvard University, women with large breasts and narrow waists find it easier to fall pregnant. It has been found that the classic hour-glass figure has on average 26% higher level of hormone of E2 and enhanced level of progesterone.
Both the E2 and progesterone are linked to fertility in women. The finding was published in the Royal Society journal imaginatively titled article entitled ‘Proceeding B’.
Christina Hendricks of famed Mad Men television series is much admired for her hourglass figure.
What EVERY woman needs to know about why men cheat… by a man who spent years talking to hundreds of unfaithful husbands
By Tessa Cunningham After 26 years of marriage, LibDem MP Chris Huhne admitted he’d been having an affair. So why do men cheat?
Playwright PEADAR DE BURCA, 36, who is married with a baby daughter, has spent five years interviewing 250 adulterous men. Here, he tells TESSA CUNNINGHAM the secrets cheating men would rather we didn’t know…
Teresa had been suspicious of her husband for weeks, but as she sat in her car watching him walk into the home of an attractive blonde, she was stunned.
Nick was a GP, but this was no ordinary house visit. For starters, he was off duty and had told Teresa he’d be at the gym.
Her heart was hammering as she marched up to the front door. It was opened by a red-faced, flustered young woman. Teresa pushed her to one side.
‘I know my husband’s here,’ she snapped, as she stormed inside and marched from room to room.
Philanderer: Donald Draper with his mistress in the hit TV series Mad Men. But what makes men cheat, and why do their wives forgive them?
She hurled open the door of the airing cupboard and there, crouching behind a pile of towels and sheets, was Nick. He was naked, except for his expensive designer glasses.
‘It’s not what it looks like. You are just imagining things. Please go home and everything will be OK,’ he said.
Welcome to the world of cheating husbands. They tell the most outrageous lies, they have one mistress after another and – most amazing of all – they often get away with it.
While terribly hurt by her husband’s betrayal, Teresa decided to accept his grovelling apologies and take him back. They are still together and, yes, he is still cheating.
I come from a long line of cheating men. Several of my uncles were womanisers and it destroyed their families. Their wives were always at loggerheads with them and their children grew up insecure. Similarly, many of the lads I grew up with have turned into womanisers.
But I wanted to be different. I knew I wanted to settle down and find what seems elusive these days: a happy, committed, faithful marriage.
So five years ago I embarked on my quest to find out what makes men cheat. Are some men programmed to be unfaithful? Is it something in their DNA, an overdeveloped sex drive or irresistible charm?
What I discovered was much more shocking. After meeting hundreds of adulterers, I’m convinced they cheat because they can get away with it.
I talked to more than 250 men from all walks of life – doctors, dentists, lawyers, bankers, footballers, teachers and the odd millionaire.
All had cheated on their wives but, incredibly, only 40 of them had been found out. The others got away scot free and are still at it – as are many of the men who were found out and forgiven.
‘I’ve been left ashamed by the dirty tricks my fellow men get up to and horrified by the way women let them get away with murder’
I also talked to 60 betrayed women. All except three have stuck with their cheating husbands.
When women don’t have the courage to stand up for themselves, it’s virtually a cheat’s charter.
I’ve been left ashamed by the dirty tricks my fellow men get up to and horrified by the way women let them get away with murder. Quite simply, women deserve better.
Take Teresa. Tall, blonde and witty, she lives in a stunning house outside London with her husband Nick. In their early 40s, they had been married 15 years and had three children when Teresa began to suspect things weren’t right.
Her husband was spending more time at the gym than usual. Yet when he came home, his kit was clean.
One evening, Teresa followed him – to his mistress’s home. ‘Even when I found him naked in the airing cupboard, he had the gall to try to persuade me it wasn’t as bad as it looked. He was so calm that I almost believed him,’ she says.
But even though she had caught him, Teresa decided to forgive him. ‘I have a lovely home and a great lifestyle. I don’t want to lose all that and see my children grow up without a father,’ she says.
‘And I don’t want to face life alone. Who would want me? I’ve stuck with Nick and he’s carried on cheating. I know he will never stop. Now I just turn a blind eye. I still love him, but I don’t trust him an inch.’
The betrayed wives all had one thing in common – a lack of confidence. They were at least as attractive as the mistresses and a great deal more intelligent. But they let their men walk all over them.
When I started my quest five years ago, I imagined it would be hard to find cheats and even more difficult to find ones willing to own up. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Unfaithful: Chris Huhne (circled right) his wife Vicky (centre) and Carina Trimingham (left). Last week Mr Huhne left his wife for Miss Trimingham
Call out ‘Cheat’ in any street and a dozen guilty men will look furtively over their shoulders.
My first cheat – who I met through a friend of a friend – flicked open his address book and it was a roll call of fellow philanderers. It takes a cheat to know one.
They passed me on like a parcel. And they weren’t simply willing to open up, they were bursting to tell me all about their affairs.
The male’s capacity to boast about his sexual prowess knows no bounds. Once they started reeling off their conquests, it was impossible to shut them up.
Aged from 25 to 65, some were handsome, some were downright ugly, but most were successful. I imagined they’d be living exciting, glamorous lives. But nothing could be further from the truth.
If one thing’s certain, affairs don’t make you happy. Once I’d dug beneath the boasting and bravado, I was stunned by just how insecure most of these love cheats were.
Most admitted they weren’t even driven by sex. They just wanted something to fill their empty lives.
One evening, my research took me to a bar, where I met a married man in his 30s and his girlfriend. Like most of the mistresses I met, she barely had two brain cells to rub together. A decade younger, she was obviously attracted by the money and didn’t seem to care whether he was married or not.
‘One man boasted to me: “When my wife discovered by affair, I managed to make her feel guilty”‘
When she went to the ladies, the man passed me his mobile phone to show me photos of his children. ‘I love my family. I know I’m ruining everything, but I can’t help myself,’ he sobbed.
He was so pathetic I almost felt sorry for him. But having spoken to all these men, I wonder if they’re capable of love — I’m not sure they even love themselves, so how can they love their wives? If they did, would they risk inflicting such pain on them?
Until I started this project, I hadn’t realised how devastating it is for a woman to know her husband has been unfaithful.
The wife of a serial cheat told me: ‘You see yourself for the first time through this unforgiving mirror. Suddenly every little fault and imperfection is exaggerated.
‘I used to feel good about myself because I thought I had a husband who loved me and was faithful. Now that’s all gone. Even though I know he’s to blame, I’ll never feel as good about myself again.’
You’d expect cheats to feel guilt, but, believe me, most don’t. The men I met seemed to find it impossible to understand the damage they had caused.
They seemed far more interested in their next affair. And when they were found out, they often turned the tables on their wives.
One man boasted to me: ‘When my wife discovered my affair, I managed to make her feel guilty. I told her it was because she’d been ignoring me and had gone off sex. In the end, she was the one apologising.’
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I’m convinced part of the trouble is that we allow men to think philandering is harmless.
Look at the way we tolerate Bill Clinton. One of the saddest stories I heard was from a woman whose husband had cheated on her when their youngest child was seriously ill.
Desperately worried, this poor woman had started comfort eating and had put on weight.
When she discovered her husband was having an affair, even her own family suggested she was partly to blame. ‘You shouldn’t have let yourself go,’ they tutted.
It’s a cliché, but a lot of men start cheating when they hit middle age. They realise they’re never going to be David Beckham or Bill Gates, but they can have a fantasy life with another woman.
So, what can women do to protect themselves against cheats?
First, be wary of women with long hair. One of the most unexpected things I discovered was that men nearly always cheat with women who have longer hair than their wives.
I’m not a trained psychologist, but the reason couldn’t be more obvious — or more shallow. They want to rekindle their youth with a younger version of their wives and long hair seems to equal youth.
There was only one man for whom I felt any empathy or affection. And he was the only man who had an affair with a short-haired woman who was older than his wife.
Sean, a teacher, fell in love with Nuala, a widowed barrister, when they appeared in an amateur dramatic play together. At 57, she was 20 years older than him.
‘My wife and I had been drifting apart. Nuala was flirty, tactile and great fun,’ he says.‘At the aftershow party, we went out for a cigarette and ended up kissing. It was totally unexpected and I felt overwhelmed by guilt, but I couldn’t stop myself.
‘We drifted on for a year until my wife discovered us together and threw me out. I feel terrible for the pain I caused and wish I’d been brave enough to be honest about what I was doing.
‘My wife is in a new relationship and we are both much happier.’
Sean was the only man I met who fell in love with his mistress and was prepared to end his marriage. But even he tried to have his cake and eat it for a year.
The simple truth is that most cheats are cowards. They are not brave enough to admit there might be problems in their relationship.
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Instead, they embark on affairs that involve secrecy. When they are caught out, it’s normally down to something as clichéd as lipstick on their collar or a scratch mark they can’t explain.
And if their wife forgives them, they believe they’ve got carte blanche to carry on. I’ve met only one man who stopped cheating, even though he’d never been found out.
If his case wasn’t so tragic, it would be comical. Paul, a 46-year-old builder and a notorious womaniser, was having an affair with a neighbour when he developed narcolepsy. Every time he got excited, he fell asleep.
The doctor put it down to stress. And no wonder: Paul had been leading a double life for 20 years.
His mistress left him because he couldn’t perform any more. He lost his job and can’t even watch football, because he falls asleep as soon as things get exciting.
‘The worst part is that my wife is so sympathetic,’ he says.
Having spent years trailing serial philanderers, I can’t believe why more women don’t read them the riot act. By and large, these men had fantastically attractive women at home who were prepared to be treated like dirt.
And that’s the problem. If men think they can get away with cheating, they will.
The secret to keeping your man faithful couldn’t be simpler: be confident, demand attention and make it clear he is lucky to have you and won’t get a second chance.
I’m also convinced there are faithful men out there. They have a moral code and strength of character. They don’t lie or cheat. They’re more interested in being the sort of father their children can look up to than their own selfish pleasure.
Am I that sort of man? I really hope so. Not just for my wife’s sake, but for mine. Most of the adulterers I met are the most miserable men on earth.
I saw this article by Jane Hoskyn online at MSN. I must say I agree with her totally!!!
53 secrets girls don’t want guys to knowBy Jane Hoskyn
Ask us what women are thinking, and we can trot out any number of things. “Don’t knock babbling, it’s a sign that we fancy you,” for example. Or: “Give us stubble burn once and we may never kiss you again.”
But those are the things that we wish men knew. The really telling thoughts are the ones that we don’t want men to know. Especially the men that we’re sleeping with – or wish we were sleeping with.
Deep in this innermost vault of secrecy lie our feelings about our exes, your exes, our bodies, your bodies… and our feelings at the end of a date or the start of a relationship. This is top-secret, high-octane stuff. In the wrong hands, it could be extremely dangerous. Read on if you think you’re hard enough.
1. When we get whistled at in the street, we feel uncomfortable and we’ll always tut and roll our eyes. But we’re awesomely flattered and we’d be gutted if it stopped.
2. We will never grow out of our fascination with pop stars. A guy can be completely ordinary-looking, but we will fancy him if he’s in a band.
3. We are more likely to fancy a guy if his ex-girlfriends are really pretty.
4. We can be put off a guy by finding out that his ex-girlfriends are a bit ugly.
5. When we look through your Facebook photos, we’re looking to see how pretty or ugly your ex-girlfriends are.
6. We look through your Facebook photos a lot, and we really hope that you haven’t downloaded anything that reveals who looks at them the most.
7. Here’s how to make us fall for you. One day, come on to us so strong that we’re a bit weirded out by it. Then totally fail to ring us. We’ll wonder what we did wrong, and we won’t be able to stop thinking about you.
8. The above strategy isn’t foolproof. We may just lose interest. It depends on how much we liked you in the first place.
9. We often don’t know how much we liked you in the first place. We may have to wait until you don’t phone us. If we’re disappointed, it proves that we fancy you. If we’re not, it proves that we don’t. It’s like when you toss a coin to help you make a decision.
10. Stop trying to understand how our minds work. Even we don’t understand how our minds work.
11. We constantly change our minds and reserve the right to do so.
12. We love getting a missed call from you. It makes us feel in control.
13. The pleasure of noticing a missed call doesn’t last long. We never know how soon to ring back, and it does our heads in.
14. We are constantly scared of putting you off by seeming too keen.
15. We are constantly scared of putting you off by not seeming keen enough.
16. We will never discuss this with you because we are constantly scared of putting you off by bringing “us” up in conversation.
17. “I’m scared of being hurt” means “I don’t fancy you as much as I thought I did.” You know it, we know it, and that is all that will be said on the matter.
18. We say “we’re not manipulative” because we’re really good at being manipulative.
19. We only manipulate your feelings because you manipulated our feelings first.
20. Snoring costs you sex.
21. Your feet disgust us.
22. We shave our toes.
23. We’ve got a rogue hair that needs regular plucking.
24. We went through a phase of shaving our moustache.
25. We leave our legs unshaven on a first date so that we won’t end up in bed with you.
26. We wear big knickers on a first date so that we won’t end up in bed with you.
27. We spend entire first dates fancying the pants off you and worrying that we’ll end up in bed with you, all unshaven legs and big knickers.
28. We don’t actually care that much about the loo seat.
29. We suspect that you like our bodies more when we’re carrying a few extra pounds, but we always feel better about ourselves when we lose weight. However we hate that our boobs look deflated, and we’re disgusted by the injustice of it.
30. We envy you for being able to eat more than us and not get fat. By “envy” we mean “occasionally hate.”
31. If a grown-up woman has light blonde hair, she’s bleaching it*. You can tell that a woman is a natural blonde from her mousey eyebrows. (* OK, or she’s Scandinavian.)
32. We trim our nose-hair.
33. Yes we’ve got nice eyes, blah blah. Boring. We are desperate for you to compliment our skin and our necks.
34. We are even more desperate for you to write poems about us.
35. When we’re at a party we clock the sexy girls far quicker than we clock the sexy guys.
36. We find female strippers sexier than male strippers. But that doesn’t mean we want to snog any of them.
37. However we do wish we were gay sometimes, if only to get oral sex from someone who really knows what they’re doing.
38. Size does matter, fellas.
39. What you do with it matters even more.
40. What you do with your tongue matters most of all.
41. We’re really scared that you’ll feel our back zits.
42. During breakouts we get up at 6am and cover our spots with concealer while you’re sleeping.
43. We don’t want you to stay for breakfast. We want you to leave immediately so that you don’t have time to register how dog-rough we look in the morning.
44. We want you to text us from your journey home to say how you can’t stop smiling.
45. If you don’t text or call within 24 hours we’ll feel so unhappy that no amount of chocolate and wine can cheer us up. Though we’ll give it a try.
46. We’d happily sleep with your best mate to make you jealous.
47. We’re scared of commitment too.
48. If you’re not very well endowed, your girlfriend won’t tell her friends. She’s as embarrassed about it as you are. However if you dump her, she’ll tell everyone.
49. We fake orgasms so that you’ll stop and let us go to sleep.
50. We aren’t always sure when we’re faking it. In orgasms, the line between fact and fiction can be very thin.
51. We love falling asleep in your arms, for the first few weeks of a relationship anyway. To be honest we’d sleep a lot better if you weren’t there.
52. We find your dark-coloured bedsheets a total turn-off.
53. We’re all little girls inside. You make us cry far more easily than you realise.
I usually make up my mind about a man in ten seconds; and I very rarely change it. -Baroness Thatcher
First Impression, the Lowdown
Baroness Thatcher was not the only one to sum up someone within seconds of meeting. This happens every single day of the week.
In job interviews, you have to present yourself well even before opening your mouth. They ‘judge’ you how you comb your hair, how good are your shoes, your suit, your tie, your fingernails, your teeth, your smile.
We often hear people say “I thought you are rather high and mighty, but you are ok.”
Give a good and scintillating first impression. Show them that well-rounded personality.
A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed. – Henrik Ibsen
Do you still remember when Dorothy Boyd (Renee Zelwegger) told Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise)