Category: Marriage

Marriage & Friendship

Marrying your best friend eliminates the risk of divorce by over 70%, and this marriage is more likely to last a lifetime.

Marriage & Friendship

The above statistic/psychobabble was from Facebook. 🙂

Apparently if you are too scared to get married because you are too afraid to end up in a divorce, messy or otherwise, marrying a best-friend or friend has a guaranteed probability of successful marriage by 70 per cent.

I supposed a friend, is someone who understands and accepts you for who and what you are.  He/she knew your quirks and idiosyncrasies from way back as friends.  Shared secrets, shared hopes and dreams are pretty powerful force that binds you together.  Someone, who would cover your back no matter what is something that you would yearn in times of great need.  Being married to one is being so lucky!

In an interview of Blake Lively, this is what she had to say about her husband, Ryan Reynolds:

He is my friend first.  I think that’s the secret to happiness.

Dancing with a naked man to Lady in Red

 

We got married in November 1986 and the most popular song during that month on that year was Lady In Red. It was played over and over during our wedding! Everyone was dancing. Thus it became our theme song (how corny!).

By the way thank you for the dance. Nothing could be better than dancing with a naked man while Lady in Red is playing at 1:30 in the morning.

Happy Anniversary to you, Dearest. I wish for many, many, many more years together.


“The Lady In Red”

I’ve never seen you looking so lovely as you did tonight,
I’ve never seen you shine so bright,
I’ve never seen so many men ask you if you wanted to dance,
They’re looking for a little romance, given half a chance,
And I have never seen that dress you’re wearing,
Or the highlights in your hair that catch your eyes,
I have been blind;

The lady in red is dancing with me, cheek to cheek,
There’s nobody here, it’s just you and me,
It’s where I want to be,
But I hardly know this beauty by my side,
I’ll never forget the way you look tonight;

I’ve never seen you looking so gorgeous as you did tonight,
I’ve never seen you shine so bright, you were amazing,
I’ve never seen so many people want to be there by your side,
And when you turned to me and smiled, it took my breath away,
And I have never had such a feeling,
Such a feeling of complete and utter love, as I do tonight;

The lady in red is dancing with me, cheek to cheek,
There’s nobody here, it’s just you and me,
It’s where I want to be,
But I hardly know this beauty by my side,
I’ll never forget the way you look tonight;

I never will forget the way you look tonight…
The lady in red, the lady in red,
The lady in red, my lady in red,

I love you…

Infidelity – Your Cheating Heart

Consequences are unpitying. Our deeds carry their terrible consequences, quite apart from any fluctuations that went before—consequences that are hardly ever confined to ourselves.
— George Eliot

Infidelity?!!!

Infidelity is a choice!

Cartoon from: http://nickandzuzu.com/

Cartoon from: http://nickandzuzu.com/

What do they say about cheating?
A code of honour: Never approach a friend’s girlfriend or wife with mischief as your goal. There are just too many women in the world to justify that sort of dishonourable behaviour. Unless she’s really attractive.
– Bruce Jay Friedman

All is fair in love and war.
– Edward Smedley

Every man needs two women: a quiet home-maker, and a thrilling nymph.
– Iris Murdoch

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you’ll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.
– Ann Landers
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My attitude toward men who mess around is simple: If you find ’em, kill ’em.
– Loretta Lynn

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When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
~Sacha Guitry

Second Wedding Anniversary

Paper Anniversary

Peter and I have two wedding anniversaries.  One in November celebrating our church wedding  27 years ago and this one in June, commemorating our Registry office wedding two years ago.  They are both genuine weddings and we have two marriage contracts to show for it.

I love these anniversaries, I get to have two gifts.

Peter and I have decided once again to dine at home and cook for ourselves, like the one in November last year.  It was more personal and also being a Monday, a workday, we could chill and take our time more at home.

Below are the photos we took while we were preparing the food.

We thought as it was a special occasion, we have to have a selfie as well.  LOL

The second anniversary traditions:

Gifts could be anyone of cotton, paper or china.

Flower: Lily of the Valley

Gemstone: Garnet (wow, my birthstone)

 


We really enjoyed preparing our meal. We had mini leche flans and puto, two of Peter’s favourite Filipino sweets. The mini leche flans and puto actually worked well together and surprisingly very easy to make. I would certainly make them again, not just for myself but more from special request from Peter.

Peter also said that he particularly enjoyed the pork in black bean sauce. If I say so myself, it was actually quite good. ;). For celebrations more to come, we ensured that we also have noodles. The long strands of the noodles mean, long life, long lasting.

As to the gift, Peter got me a book on 101 gardening tips which I love. Well done to him, he really research our second anniversary. He got the “paper” right. He knows me so well. He knows what I like, he knows my reading habit. I got him a tin drink canteen.;)

Of course we also exchanged anniversary cards. We were so pleased with ourself that in a moment of madness we indulged in a bit of SELFIE.

Happy Anniversary, Peter. More, more, more, more years together!

Romancing a Stony Heart

My heart is ever at your service.
– William Shakespeare

There comes a time in a relationship, even the most enduring ones, when the heart gets bruised a few times.  If it is left ignored, the heart then hardens by way of self-protection and preservation.  Here lies the problem, a heart that has harden needed to be soften to be able to function and feel the love offered it.

From today, we are going to try to have a daily tincture  as a refresher and a tonic to the bruised heart.

Let’s commence romancing a stony heart into love.

8_8_54Day 1 – Give your patner a back massage!  Get some lovely scented massage oil and get busy (and dirty!) 😉

 

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clip-art-cinema-066206Day 2 – Take her to see a romantic film at the cinema.

I remember Peter used to take me to see films like Bridget Jones Diary, Notting Hill, Love Actually and Something About Mary.  We did enjoy the films and we promised that we would see more and then  we’ve forgotten how much we did enjoy them did not watch them for ages.  But now we do try to watch more of this genre again.

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downloadDay 3 – Change the beddings.  Nothing is more cosy, comforting and sexier that the feel of Egyptian cotton against your skin.  White is our favourite.  The more you wash them, the softer they get.   A real treat to the senses. 😉

 

 

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Breakfast in Bed Photo by JMorton

Breakfast in Bed
Photo by JMorton

Day 4 – Definitely breakfast in bed.  There is nothing more romantic and caring than being brought up by your other half a lovely breakfast in bed.  This would definitely earn you a lot of love points! 😉

 

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Day 5 – Play a quick game of cards after dinner.  I love this.  We are both not expert with card games but we enjoy playing anyway!

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Day 6 – Leave her a quick note of love as often as possible.  I appreciate this from Peter.  Every morning when I get up I find a hand written note from Peter.  It sets the morning for me.  Love it.

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Day 7 – Be a bard.  Write her/him a poem.

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Day 8 –  Sexting is all the rage.  If done right, it would be fun and sexy.  Watch out for the predictive text from your mobile phone.  Your sexy text might become anything but.  😉
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Day 9 – Join a ballroom dancing class. What better to get close than dancing the samba, the tango and the elegant waltz together. Dancing cheek to cheek with arms at each other.
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Day 10 – Go out into the garden on a clear night and just look up to the sky, then kiss.

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Day 11 – Recite a classic poem to your dearest.  Recommendation:  How do I love thee, let me count the ways…. by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.

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Day 12 – Notice her clothes.  Say how lovely she looks in her new dress/blouse/skirt.

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Day 13 – give her flowers, a single rose stem, the red one, is so romantic.  It will make her smile or suspicious! LOL

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Day 14 – Go for a walk, with the doggie or just the two of you.  Whilst walking, hold hands!

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Day 15 – Go for a picnic.  Peter and I often go for picnics and we find it so lovely and we feel so close.  Dining al fresco over a rug full of goodies is relaxing to say the least.  Good way to unwind.

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Day 16 – Massage her feet, especially when she is tired.  I love this.

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Day 17 – Take her to an art gallery.

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Day 18 – Open things for her: Doors, jars, bottles, high windows, etc. Make her feel delicate some of the times, all the time would be rather patronising 😉
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Day 19 – Give her a kiss before you go to sleep.
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Day 20 – Wake her with a kiss in the morning.
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Day 21 – Kiss her goodbye as you go to work.
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Day 22 – Kiss hello as you return from work.
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Day 23 – Take her to see chick flicks once every so often.
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Day 24 – Compile a list of your sweet memorable moments together.

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Day 25 – Surprise her with a beautiful single flower!

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Naming & Shaming

babyNaming your child is a very personal thing.  It would take a good compromise between a mother and a father to agree to the names of their children.

Peter and I agreed that if we had a girl, I could name her and if it was a boy, Peter will name him.

So Peter named our son but at the last minute, I had to step in.  I don’t think it was fair to name our gorgeous baby after a television hero, even if he was Star Trek’s main man.  So James is not called James Tiberius Kirk, no way!!!

Naming & Shaming

A lot of celebrities have jumped on the bandwagon of naming their children after the strangest, most bizarre and unconventional words of all things.

Thanks to Deel Poll, one can change one’s name legally and end the humiliation of being called an unsuitable and inappropriate given names/s.   Many have taken this way out.

Having said that, there was a rather cute story which follows below:

A Boy and A Girl named Walter(s)

I read somewhere that a Brazilian woman was so enamoured with her husband that as a tribute she called her first child, a daughter Walterlucia after her husband, Walter.

Walter was so chuffed with his wife’s solicitude that he asked that their next child will also be named from a derivation of his name.  To cut a very long story short, they had a further 8 girls and six boys named  Walterlivia, Walterlenia, Walterlonia, Walterlacia, Walterluzia, Walterangelina, Walterluana, Waltersilvana, Walteremanuel, Walterluis, Walteroliverio, Waltermarcelo, Walterlicinio and Walterfernando.

Erotides Brandao, 88,  who is now a widow maintains that “Walter deserved it,  he was a good man.”

Month: February – Love Month

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Sweet February Twenty Nine! –
This our grace-year, as I live!
Quick, now! this foolish heart of mine:
Seize thy prerogative!
– Walter de la Mare

 

Time is passing fast and furious.

I have barely taken a breathe from the Christmas holiday, I  can still vividly remember buying presents, cooking the turkey and then putting away the Christmas decorations  as if was just yesterday, and yet here we are, February already; and January had 5 weeks too!  Where has the time gone?!!!

Well anyway February is known for being the lurve month, because of St Valentine’s Day which of course falls due on the 14th of this month.

amethystDid you know?

The gemstone connected with February is the Amethyst which is a symbol of wit and health.

The month’s colour is ‘Dark Blue’

Flower: Violet

 

February, being the love month –  which better time is it to talk about love and its many aspects!

Love is one of those things that is so hard to fathom, to define, so hard to maintain, so hard to be consistent with.  Love is happiness, love is bitterness, love is sadness, love is loathing, love is completeness, love is…. love is…

To start our love month, we shall ask ourselves  one of the most important question that needed answering and fast before it is too late …

Below was from a Facebook timeline

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! 

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NOTABLE EVENTS IN FEBRUARY

1 February 1884, the very first edition of the Oxford English dictionary was published.

9 February 1962, Jamaica became independent!

10 February 1884, Queen Victoria and Prince Albert tied the knot.

11 February 1929, Vatican City was created as a standalone independent state.

13 February 1888, the first issue of the Financial Times came out.

14 February 1929, this day became known as the infamous St Valentine’s Day Massacre, which happened in Chicago.

16 February 1937,  we’ve got nylon!  It was this day that it was patented.

18 February 1979, it snowed at the Sahara Desert.

22 February 1997, ‘Dolly’ the sheep was cloned.

 

Shamcey Supsup Gets Married

The much awaited wedding of the year has finally happened, Shamcey Supsup has at last made an honest man of Lloyd Lee, her boyfriend whom she met in 2011 during her birthday party.  After a year of dating, an engagement followed. 😉

Shamcey, a UP Architecture super graduate held her wedding at The Church of the Risen Lord located within the University of the Philippines campus, in Diliman, Quezon City. The nuptial was consecrated today, 29th December 2013.

Apparently the happy couple will postpone their honeymoon until the Easter/Holy Week which they will be spending in Europe as a special request from the bride.  Meanwhile they will be concentrating in the completion of their home, which I am sure will be a dream of a house as Shamcey is a top-notch architect.

Shamcey Supsup - the bride with parents and friends

Shamcey Supsup – the bride with parents and friends

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Shamcey’s wedding dress was made by Cherry Veric.  It was certainly eye-catching and rather beautiful, but it has that incomplete look about it.  It looks to me as if the bride has forgotten to wear her kamison (chemise or half slip). 🙁

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Shamcey and Lloyd nuptials

Lloyd Lee, the groom, was handsome in a colour coordinated with the bride champagne suit.

Shamcey and Lloyd wedding vows

I am sure fun will be had by all at the EDSA Shangri-La Hotel Ballroom, where the wedding reception is being held.

 

GLOBALGRANARY WOULD LIKE TO WISH THIS HAPPY COUPLE A LONG AND HAPPY MARRIED LIFE.
Congratulations Lloyd  and best wishes, Shamcey!

Still You and Me

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My Darling Husband

I am not sure how you are going to take this as it is too public. Anyway I want to declare that you are mine and no one else. We have many happy times and sad times and the most excruciating time in our marriage that almost tore us apart. But we were like planets and moons. We may pull away from one another but always go together. But this time you promised that we are just one body, not planets but a planet nor sattelites but a moon.

I do love you so much, I have always known that, I may not show it often because that is the way I am. I was not brought up the touchy-feeley way. When I say I love you, that is an honest truth. You know, one thing about me is my honesty. I never mince my words, what I say is the truth.

You hurt me so much, I thought it was not possible to overcome what we went through but we are both strong.

We were given a new lease of life. Our marriage is stronger and brighter than ever and as you keep reminding me a brand you one as we got married again and we are kinder to each other. You have turned into the man that I have always wanted, always dreamed about. I can say now that I have my perfect man.

I do notice how your are doing everything you can to make me happy. I notice those comforting hugs everytime I look slightly sad. I notice how you hug me tightly in bed everytime I sigh.

I love all the flowers, I love the weekend breakfast in bed. I love of the chocolates and especially my kosher cream cakes. I love that you wait outside my work like a doting boyfriend. I love your dancing at night ala Magic Mike(LOL), I love that you scratch my back to send me to sleep. I love the way you make the bed for me everynight and make sure that my favourite scent is blowing in our bedroom vapouriser. I love the way you bring me coffee every morning before you go to work. I love the way you whisper you love me in the dark of the night. I love the way you help or even do the cooking after work. I love that we go out more. I love that you want now to come shopping with me and hold my clothes while I am choosing and wait patiently while I try them on. I especially love that you pay afterwards.;) I love that you listen to me. I love that you give me advice with my blogs, I love that you blog too and quite proud of GlobalGranary.org, I love that we take a walk with Diesel before bed-time.

But most especially I love that we are parents to the most amazing child. And now grandparents to the most adorable boy.

Yes I love everything you do but in doing so, you made me a lazy woman, who love you utterly. 😉